Cat Got His Tongue? Get Your New Guy to Open Up to You!

So you’ve found a great guy, but he’s kinda shy. So how do you get him to open up to you? Here are three secrets to get your guy talking.

(1) When in Rome, do as the Romans do. Is your man interested in football, art or fitness? Then you need to get interested in those things as well. Try this. Figure out what’s going on with your man’s favorite NFL team. Are they doing well? Does the team suck? Find out and bring it up the next time you’re with your man. Watch how quickly you get your man’s attention.

(2) Ask Questions With Care. Sometimes with a guy, it’s all about how you phrase the question. Hitting him with questions like, how do you feel about our relationship, or how can we achieve more intimacy with each other, are not going to make him exactly loose-lipped. Instead try, honey, is everything okay? That is a more general question and doesn’t have the word “relationship” in it. That word often causes an unexplained communication breakdown in men.

(3) Don’t judge him. Men hate sharing something with their woman, only to be judged for it. Phrases like, that’s not so bad, honey and I’ve done worse, make your man feel at ease and comfortable to share more with you.

Need more info? Try How To Talk So Boys Will Listen And Listen So Boys Will Talk by Lisa Trumbauer

Good luck! :)

Where Are All the Great Guys? Find One Right Now!

So the new year has already begun and you’re thinking about that resolution you made a few months back – attracting and keeping a great guy in your life.

(1) Decide what you want and WRITE IT DOWN. This is crucial to your search. If trust is important to you, write that down. If finding a guy who is physically fit is important to you, write that down on your list. Keep going, writing down as many things that are important to you in a mate that you can think of. Once you’ve written down everything you’re looking for in a guy, you can begin to get a clearer picture of the man you are looking for and where you may be able to find that hottie!

(2) Check yourself! You’ve got to present a package worth wanting when you hit the dating scene. Make sure you are emotionally ready for a relationship and have room in your life for it. Make sure you are not still reeling over your last break-up and can bring a new guy into your life and focus on him wholeheartedly. If you need to lose weight, hit the gym. If you’ve been dying to highlight your hair, now’s the time to go for it. Get your heart and mind in shape to find that fabulous guy!

(3) Confidence is sexy. Are you sheepish and shy? That’s so yesterday! Today’s women are confident, independent and know what they want in life and in a life mate. Exude confidence and you’ll show perspective dates that you’re not only secure, but independent as well.

Need guidance? Try Women & Love: Finding True Love While Staying True to Yourself: The Eight Make-Or-Break Experiences in Women's Lives by Mira Kirshenbaum

Good luck!

The Health Benefits of Having Fabulous Sex!

By now, we should all know the health risks of unprotected sex. But did you know there are health benefits to having great sex in a monogamous relationship, too?

(1) Lose That Weight - Sex is exercise and you can burn over 200 calories in a single vigorous bout. Muscular contractions during sex work all parts of your body including the pelvis, buttocks, arms and thighs.

(2) Smell the Roses - After you’ve had sex, a hormone called prolactin surges through your body. This hormone causes the brain to produce new neutrons in the brain’s olfactory center, which controls your sense of smell.

(3) Pain Relief - Ditch the Tylenol and find your lover. Bet you didn’t know that immediately before orgasm, levels of a hormone called oxytocin surge to five times their normal levels in the human body. This releases endorphins, which alleviate the pain of migraines, arthritis and any other ache you can think of. In women, sex also increases estrogen production, which makes the PMS pain easier to handle.

For more information, check out The Seven Secrets of Really Great Sex by Graham Masterton!

Good luck! :)

Fighting Fair!

Every couple, married or not, has a spat from time to time. But how do you avoid turning those little spats into full-blown battle royales with your mate? Follow these tips for relationship tranquility. (1) Set a time limit. Agree before the discussion starts to talk for a certain period of time – 15, 20, 30 minutes or more. You can’t drag the disagreement along forever. (2) Stick to the disagreement at hand. It’s so tempting when you’re fighting with your partner to bring up past grievances that have nothing to do with the disagreement you’re trying to work through in the present. Don’t do it. It’s a toxic maneuver that is the equivalent on constantly re-opening an old wound. (3) No name-calling. It’s a fundamental rule of fighting fair. It’s also disrespectful and will make your partner defensive and escalate the fight. For help, check out the book, I'm Right. You're Wrong. Now What? How to Break Through Any Relationship Stalemate by Jaclynn Morris and Paul L. Fair

Love and Karma!

Remember when your mom told you to do unto others as you would have them do unto you? This old adage still holds true today, girl! So does the saying karma is a bitch. Love karma is even bitchier, so to ensure that positive love vibes flow your way, treat the people you date with dignity and respect and don’t expect anything less in return! Don’t believe in karma? Check out the book Good Karma: How to Find It and Keep It

by Joan Oliver!