Every couple, married or not, has a spat from time to time. But how do you avoid turning those little spats into full-blown battle royales with your mate? Follow these tips for relationship tranquility. (1) Set a time limit. Agree before the discussion starts to talk for a certain period of time – 15, 20, 30 minutes or more. You can’t drag the disagreement along forever. (2) Stick to the disagreement at hand. It’s so tempting when you’re fighting with your partner to bring up past grievances that have nothing to do with the disagreement you’re trying to work through in the present. Don’t do it. It’s a toxic maneuver that is the equivalent on constantly re-opening an old wound. (3) No name-calling. It’s a fundamental rule of fighting fair. It’s also disrespectful and will make your partner defensive and escalate the fight. For help, check out the book, I'm Right. You're Wrong. Now What? How to Break Through Any Relationship Stalemate by Jaclynn Morris and Paul L. Fair
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I think you should always fight fair with someone you love. It's not right to call each other names. Love is not a schoolyard at recess!
You're right. Men and women, whether they're in a relationship or not, should not bully each other or call each other names.
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