Cat Got His Tongue? Get Your New Guy to Open Up to You!

So you’ve found a great guy, but he’s kinda shy. So how do you get him to open up to you? Here are three secrets to get your guy talking.

(1) When in Rome, do as the Romans do. Is your man interested in football, art or fitness? Then you need to get interested in those things as well. Try this. Figure out what’s going on with your man’s favorite NFL team. Are they doing well? Does the team suck? Find out and bring it up the next time you’re with your man. Watch how quickly you get your man’s attention.

(2) Ask Questions With Care. Sometimes with a guy, it’s all about how you phrase the question. Hitting him with questions like, how do you feel about our relationship, or how can we achieve more intimacy with each other, are not going to make him exactly loose-lipped. Instead try, honey, is everything okay? That is a more general question and doesn’t have the word “relationship” in it. That word often causes an unexplained communication breakdown in men.

(3) Don’t judge him. Men hate sharing something with their woman, only to be judged for it. Phrases like, that’s not so bad, honey and I’ve done worse, make your man feel at ease and comfortable to share more with you.

Need more info? Try How To Talk So Boys Will Listen And Listen So Boys Will Talk by Lisa Trumbauer

Good luck! :)